You never get a routine in dealing with deaths in families, but it's better to get involved that to ignore their suffering
Take the education after your choice and build on that while you learn your whole life
My mother used to say Did you remember to take a look around if you have everything? when I and my children had left. Then she would collect the forgotten items and send the most important ones. I sent a bunch of house keys yesterday.
Invest LOVE and get a lot of love back
I am deeply fascinated about how people solved the problem of saving their children during war-time. I have written some posts on that issue. I am using a new photo App called Mesh, recommended by the WordPress staff. Helping Children in Hard Times Children Evacuated During the Second World War in England A good HomePage on this
Very little comes by it self when it comes to children's development. They need a lot of guidance and encouragement to develop with quality
Sometimes you are only recognized for a good deed many years after your death. Thomas Coram who spent 20 years fighting for a "Foundling Hospital" was removed from the board ten years before his death.
Much comes by it self, but babies need a helping hand to do things in the right order and quality.
Emotional neglect in childhood is shown in the character if not handled lovingly in time.
To give the true and loving story to a child about his past will help that child to know that his life is valuable and will lift the burden of the unknown.