Social Anxiety or Introvert
One of my blogging friends Vincent Mars with his blog “Boy with a Hat” has been interviewed by Anna Cutteridge at her blog repsycl.com about his feelings about always having preferred to be alone. The first question:
How do you feel about the diagnosis or term ‘social anxiety’?
Social anxiety isn’t necessarily an illness, but a peculiar character type. When it’s so bad that it affects your relationship with other people, it should have a name. But the name itself can make it worse. Not all of us are as social as others. This itself isn’t the problem. Rather, the problem is when we try to do things that don’t fit our character, in order to fit the mold. If there are no physical symptoms other than anxiety, the best treatment may be a deeper understanding of yourself. I recommend Susan Cain’s The Power of Introverts.
I recommend to read the rest of the interview via the link Boy with a Hat
I can identify with Vincent on the need of being alone. As a child I felt overwhelmed when playing with children I didn’t know well and at school I hated when our teacher wanted us to work in groups. To be sent to a summer camp was traumatic for me the first time as I had never been away from home before the age of 11.
I admit that during my many years at work I felt an enormous pressure when I couldn’t just go on doing my job as I wanted to perform it. The many meetings at the office were exhausting and seldom did accomplish any result.
We can look at nature. Some birds are always seen in huge flocks and others like the Robin you only see one by one. Both types of birds are perfectly normal. They never reproach themselves for not changing their behavior.
So could we accept that some of us prefer to be alone like a robin and others love to be like sparrows in huge flocks.
Vincent left high school without the final exam but he seems to flourish and his blog has 22,135 followers