Inspired from the daily post’s writing challenge and from SarahLees love and hate list on nursing. https://sarahleeregisterednurse.wordpress.com/2014/05/27/love-and-hate-a-nurses-list/

I have made a list on the same subject of love and hatred from my work as a Health Visitor.

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I loved when:

• I managed to make an overwhelmed ad exhausted mother feel that she was the best mother for her child.
• I could be supportive through a long period of birth depression so that also the baby got enough smiles from primary persons.
• I could teach the parents how to help their baby to sleep enough and at the expected times.
• I could save a baby from the bottle if it was possible to breast feed.
• I could help the sore nipples to be healed and breastfeeding could continue.
• I could help parents to be comfortable about their premature child and that the little one had his own pace and developed fine, when you deduct the months he was prematurely born.
• being able to make parents understand that babies develop in phases and when you don’t push them, they will develop harmoniously.
• I could help a mother to relax about a baby’s eating problems by going back to a former level and start over again.
• to meet school children, who asked me” When do you come to our class again”?

I hated when:

• parents wouldn’t stop smoking even though their babies would have persistent lung problems, eating disorders and eventually learning disorders too.
• parents spoke to their babies like they were unwanted. Things like ” little hairy monkey” or ” little bastard”.
• non of my advice were any good.
• parents forced their premature children to play on the floor when they needed to be swaddled in soft cloths and held in the arms or in the cradle.
• parents let their babies lie and sit in awkward positions so that their skulls got ugly shapes and their hips and shoulders became inflexible.
• I discovered that a mother had left her children to live with another man elsewhere.
• children weren’t given new glasses, when worn out or not treated for lice.